We interrupt this message for an important public service announcement: Reading this post may result in the unintended consequence of getting a certain Single Ladies song stuck in your head. Read on, at your own risk! ~Lisa
Before I added the day to my calendar, I realized my impending doom.
“Saving the date” was the last time I would use the word “date” in relation to my coworker’s wedding.
Nothing reminds me of my relationship status like wedding season. This would be the first time I attended a wedding by myself, and I wasn’t looking forward to it.
I don’t know why people, especially women, have such high anxiety about going to weddings alone, but the pervasiveness of that cultural anxiety hit me hard. I pictured myself as a 27-year-old on the playground, waiting to be picked for kickball and getting picked last. I worked myself up to believe everyone else would be paired off, and I almost let that possibility stop me from going.
Despite my “wedding jitters,” I put on a killer dress, some comfy flats, and headed to the event.
This isn’t a romantic comedy, so I didn’t accidentally bump into the love of my life at the wedding. There was no bouquet toss where I could grab my destiny by the stems, and no one swept me off of my feet on the dance floor.
There was a lot that I didn’t do at that wedding, but there was one thing that I did. I took the time to appreciate the complexities of love and how the absence of some love doesn’t mean the absence of all.
I looked at my coworker, who literally never stopped smiling the entire evening, and realized his happiness was all that mattered in that moment. The love he has for his wife isn’t related to the fact that I haven’t found my forever person. I may have a dozen more solo weddings to attend before I do.
This single lady will never be concerned about going to a wedding alone ever again. I’ll find my match when the time is right. Until then, I’ll remember that every wedding I attend is a celebration of love. If I’m celebrating something as powerful as love—whether it’s between lovers, best friends, siblings or even colleagues—there’s no such thing as going solo.
Marchae Grair is the newest contributor to the Event Plan-It team, and she absolutely loves it. She brings the single woman’s perspective to the blog and hopes to not only reach lovebirds with her writing, but also to reach those “flying solo.”
Marchae brings nearly a decade of journalism experience and three years of professional social media work to the Event Plan-It team. She attended journalism school and decided the mainstream reporting life wasn’t for her, but writing still felt like home. She works at a nonprofit organization during the day and writes for other outlets as well.
In her brief moments of free time, you’ll find Marchae hanging out with her 10-pound dog Bigman, reading a witty memoir, or watching Netflix. Feel free to contact her at Marchae.Grair@Gmail.com.