Weddings can be complicated and costly, but here are some things you can cross off your list.
6 Things You Don’t Need At Your Wedding*
(*But you might want them – and if you do, then have at it! This is just a reminder that you don’t *have* to have them.)
1. Cake knife and server
The cake smooshing ritual is a lovely tradition, but whether you’re serving cupcakes, mini-pies, a dessert buffet, or a traditional layer cake, you really don’t need a special knife and server for your wedding. Borrow a set from a friend, thrift a set, rent a set (check with your caterer or rental company), ask a family member if you might “inherit” theirs early, or you know, just use a fork and knife. You will seriously use them for less than two minutes, so unless it’s important to you to have an engraved or custom set for future use, this is an unnecessary unitasker.
2. The garter toss
If we get real about this, the garter toss is basically soft porn in front of friends, family, and often a smattering of young children. The origins are even ickier, and more couples are nixing it. If you’re looking to lighten up the mood and open up the dance floor, how about a nice round of the Macarena instead? And hey, you can still wear a garter for your partner to find – behind closed doors.
Unless you need an armed bodyguard to prevent kidnapping or doppelgangers to ward off evil spirits, you don’t need attendants. You can have one, none, or 16 – but the more you have, the more you increase your bottom-line budget, so choose wisely.
This is a controversial one, but hear me out. On the one hand, favors are a fun way to personalize your event design and are generally inexpensive – so you might want them. On the other hand, while etiquette dictates that the couple (and family) should offer a small token in return for a guest’s presence, favors are non-essential. Guests are typically fed and watered (and wined) plenty during a wedding, which is enough to show appreciation. Instead of packing up dozens of totally adorable leftover favors at the end of the night why not offer boxes for guests to take home their desserts – or forego the favors altogether?
5. Champagne toast
Not everyone enjoys the bubbly. (Or the post-bubbly headache.) You can skip this by having your DJ make an announcement ten minutes before the toasts, telling guests to grab a drink from the bar and please take their seats. Your guests will appreciate the warning and will be happier toasting with their favorite beverage, and you’ll save on the alcohol costs. If you’re like you’re wrong, Lisa! I must have bubbly for toasting!, then try a nice prosecco, sparkling fruit juice, or a sparkling moscato – all cheaper alternatives to champagne.
6. Rice, confetti, sparklers
Church exit and send-off photos are iconic, without question. If you’re not doing one of those grand exits, though, you have no need for the above items. If you still want send-off accessories, stick with environmentally-and-people-friendly items like colorful ribbon wands or flags, biodegradable paper confetti, or bubbles – and check with your venue to see if toss items are permitted. (No really – glitter gets in eyes and hurts, confetti is a pain to clean up, and although it’s an urban myth that rice is bad for birds (it’s not), it can pose a slipping hazard for humans.)
What other things don’t you need at your wedding?